"That child is out of control,
must be the parents fault". How many times
have we heard that before? A somewhat false
statement... BUT, there is plenty you can do to curb
that negative behavior! As a parent or person of support, there is
much you can do to help an ADD/ADHD, Aspergers or Autistic child
cope with the confusion and extraordinary stresses
they feel. Parents, teachers, schools, medical
staff, and so many more people are in a position to
directly or indirectly influence a child's mood and general disposition.
From reactions to types
of foods/additives, event transition
problems, to outright defiance, this can be a very trying
time for a parent or guardian of an unfocused child and of course,
very difficult for the child themselves! The majority of of
ADD/ADHD, Aspergers or Autism research is advocated for kids and there
are a great many resources available to help both
you and the child cope. But,
it takes patience and a planned process by the parent(s) or support folks. Oh yes, much work
is done here but the results are often astounding.
How about this for a scenario
of a day in the life with The Self Cube...
Your child wakes in in the
morning and one of his morning tasks is to roll the
Cube. The Cube has 6 distinctive icons
on each face, each icon has a different meaning, a
personality trait that he or she needs to work on
that day. After rolling the cube, the child
takes a Cube Cue Card that matches the top of the
This Cue Card it a card that
the child takes out and rubs between his/her thumb
in times of stress. This is a Cue for teacher
or parent to act, but act stealthy. The
Self Cube program is accompanied with many stealthy
actions that are designed to not embarrass them. It is just a
subtle change in gears that can dampen or deflect an incident
before it happens. This process works very
well when the adult can see and act upon the Cue
that the child has offered.
The child is charged with the
task of just working on that one trait for the
entire day. Along with the Cue Card, a Fridge
Poster for all 6 icons and "hints" on how to manage
diversity can be reviewed with the whole family. At the end of the day, the child
discusses the days events and the successes.
This can be done on his/her secure personal webpage on the Self Cube website, or with a parent/support
person. The weppage will also contain a variety of
time limited games, coloring books and a bunch of
other Cube oriented functions. One of which is
to rate his/her day while working on the trait
selected that morning.
A rudimentary score is kept for
each trait and graphed to show progress.
Balance between each of the traits is the goal. And yes, parents and support folks
will get their kudos when the child can manage
themselves in a more self controlled and focused manner.
Basically, the parents and
support folks play a background role in the program
instead of a "we are going to fix" role.
Perhaps this sounds complicated, but have you ever
seen a kid play video games? Most of the
program coaching is directed to the parents and support
folks as the kids figure this all out very quickly.
Children with ADD/ADHD, Aspergers or Autism have special abilities that others
do not, we are only trying to help them find and
abilities... and OWN them. The cool thing is
The Cube Program works to improve self focus on
ALL children regardless of their age or attention
"out of the mouths of
babes and from the minds of children,
there is a champion in
all of us"